There’s a saying, “Fake it ‘till you make it”, which is based on the assumption that if you DO something for enough time, even if you’re not quite ready or good at it, you’ll end up doing it for real and even be successful at it. It can work on certain things (not surgery for instance), but I think the idea of “faking” it, the word used, is wrong.
What is true about what goes on in our brain is a bit more complicated, so bear with me as I try to get into a little grammatical nightmare to explain it. You may need to read some of this twice :)
Let’s say we’re stuck, or at a standstill, in our work. We’re not making much progress and we don’t quite know what to do. We know we need to change something but we don’t know what. We read stuff, watch tutorials, get a million conflicting information, and we’re still stuck. We want BIG changes, but all we manage to do is tweak things a little (this applies to any area of our life, not just work).
But how does change actually happen? What brings it about? What do we need to do to instigate change in our lives? As you can imagine, it doesn’t start from the outside, it starts on the inside, it starts in our brains and the way we think, but then… action is always needed. And here’s how it works.
We get ourselves ready in our minds, willing to change, ready for change, and in doing so we’re already changing somehow because we choose to BE by the way we think and believe (here’s maybe a little of the fake it, because we actually fake it to ourselves).
Our thoughts do shape our world, and even stronger than thoughts are our BELIEFS. But this is not mere wishful thinking, or the law of attraction, because those only become real in our BEING when we actually DO something about them, repeatedly and consistently.
We set intentions, we visualize or meditate or whatever gets us there, we start to feel what we want to feel, we make it more and more real in our minds and in ourselves, and we do change in the process, but then it’s the DOING that truly seals the BEING and makes sure there’s no going back from there.
The steps forward we have to take are always risks, are always out of our comfort zone, are always new, and always fitting to the new us, not the old us. They’re not so familiar, or easy, at all.
But those are the steps that make us BE different, and we find ourselves in them, and then we ARE, we don’t just DO.
BEING and DOING so interconnected and one necessary to the other, a total two-way street.
And some of the things we get to DO are totally dependent on how we BE (there goes the grammar), because if we ARE not different we would not have the opportunity to DO, but at the same time it’s the DOING that really seals the BEING, and makes it forever part of us, seals the groove, makes it alive and real and authentic, and that in turn is the basis for the next change, the next step, the next state of BEING.
And we find ourselves on the other side, changed on the inside, as we look around and see our work moving, growing, finally unstuck.
Confused? I would be! LOL :D Told you it might require a second reading… but now you know how it works. Our brains are intricate things.
And if you’re wondering why I chose a crappy picture of a bonsai snapped at a restaurant last night, it’s because - in the words of my daughter as we were discussing this post and I was wondering what to use as an image - “See that tree? It’s BEING there, but it’s not DOING anything!”
If you’re ready for change, I’m all about giving you the steps to move forward and take action (and promise they will be clear and simple and not at all confusing, and even grammatically correct).
You can BE at The next Outside the Box Workshop in Vienna in October, and start DOING stuff you never thought you would. Early Bird dies on 17 August, so jump in and save it!
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